Monday, November 1, 2010

Love meets sexual needs

“In Christian marriage, romance is meant to thrive and flourish.  After all, it was created by God.  It’s all part of celebrating what God has given, becoming one with our mate while simultaneously pursuing purity and holiness.  Sex is not to be used as a bargaining chip.  It is not something God allows us to withhold without consequence.  Though there can certainly be abuses to this divinely-designed framework, the heart of marriage is one of giving ourselves to each other to meet the other’s needs.  You are the one person called and designated by God to meet your spouse’s sexual needs.  If you allow distance to grow between you in this area, if you allow staleness to set in, you are taking something that rightly (and exclusively) belongs to your spouse.  You rob them a sense of honor and endearment that has been set in place by biblical mandate.  You violate the ‘one flesh’ of marriage.  When the love of Christ is the foundation of your marriage, the strength of your friendship and sexual relationship can be enjoyed at a level this world can never know.”

Today’s Dare:  If at all possible, try to initiate sex with your husband or wife today.  Do this in a way that honors what your spouse has told you (or implied to you) about what they need from your sexually.  Ask God to make this enjoyable for both of you as well as a path to greater intimacy.

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