Tuesday, May 11, 2010

Day Five

I just published Day Three Completed, scroll down to have a gander!

Day four-

Ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him or her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so without attacking them or justifying your behavior. This is from their perspective only.

I love the last line 'from their perspective only.' The funny thing about perspectives, or more specifically perceptions, is that they are controlling. What one member of a marital relationship perceives is factual for that person, period! It doesn't matter what their mate was trying to do or say, it's all in the way it was perceived.

For this dare Amy had to narrow her list down to only three, while I only had just one item...Totally kidding!!

Honestly neither of us could come up with three things that irritate us, but we decided that when we came across something new we would immediately share it under the protections of the 'Dare'. The things that really irritated either of us had to do with communication. Hence the opening. Communication is a network of senders, symbols, and receivers. These things can sometimes get jumbled and much like the game of 'Telephone' the signal sent is not always the signal received, or perceived.

We vowed to work harder to ensure our signals were clear, and any confusion about our intentions was cleared up at once!


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