Friday, July 9, 2010

Love promotes intimacy

"Nothing rivals the closeness that's experienced between a husband and wife. Marriage is the most inimate of all human relationships. That's why we need it so much. Each of us comes into life with an inborn hunger to be known, loved and accepted. Yet this great blessing is also the site of its greatest danger. Someone who knows us this intimately can either love us at depths we never imagined, or can wound us in ways we may never fully recover from. Your mate should not feel pressured to be perfect in order to receive your approval. They should not walk on eggshells in the very place where they ought to feel the most comfortable in their bare feet.

Marriage has unloaded another person's baggage into your life, and yours into theirs. This is your opportunity to wrap all this private information about them in the protective embrace of your love, and promise to be the one who can best help him or her deal with it. They will either know they're in a place of safety where they are free to make mistakes, or they will recoil into themselves and be lost to you, perhaps forever. Loving them well should be your life's work."

Today's Dare: Determine to guard your mate's secrets and to pray for them. Talk with your spouse, and reslove to demonstrate love in spite of these issues. Really listen to them when they share personal thoughts and struggles with you. Make them feel safe.

For obvious reasons, Steve and I will not comment on this post; however, we did discuss some things last night and resolved a few things. It's nice to know that we are safe in each other's arms.

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